How should I take it? And what should I tell my daughter ?

Guess you know how 50% of the parents feel now that she's not a starter. The coaches getting paid? They spending extra time in their life to "teach" others? Their kids are gonna get a little advantage. That's the way it works. You could always go volunteer to coach. I've been on both sides of it. IT'S A GAME! I just finished a season watching (not coaching) and the coaches daughter batted in the top 3 even though she struck out the most on the team. Oh well. He devoted more of his personal time than I did.